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♥ Wednesday, April 27, 2005♥

Are romance and passion the basis of love and marriage?

Marriage is the most complex of all human relations. yet at the smae time, marriage is not concluded on the basis of reasoned conclusion but under the impulse of feelings.For most people marraige is still a sesirable and sough-after institution. A whole set of desires and needs impels a woman to establish a family and form a stable union. It is till date the best arrangement to foster love ans sexual satisfaction, provide for happiness of children and carry out social obligations which traditionally belong to the family.
This spurred me to thought of a few questions, should love come before marriage or after marriage? How different is BGR from marriage.
Many feel that BGR is built on romance, passion and the hope of perfect happiness. YEt, passion, by nature unstablr and volatile, cannot be the basis for a long term relationship,i.e. marriage, which is built on familiarity and daily closeness. Denis de Rougemont said: A man who believes in marriage can no longer believe in love at first sight, and even less in the inevitability of passion. Since marriage usually began when boy-meet-girl and marrying, so does that means that love= familiarity and daily closeness?i believe that even so with familiarity and daily closeness as basis or rather building blocks of love, passion and romance cannot be eliminated. romance and passion always add on the bit on surprise and the spark for interest.
However, should BGR be managed the way how marriage is managed? BGR as the name suggest, a type of relationship between two young souls who posses unlimited spirit, energy and vibrance.. should there be more passion and romance or more familiarity and daily closeness? should the type of romantic scenarios in tv drama or novels be forged?
yes, many teenagers think that their partner in BGR will not be the one they marry in future. they always hope to "experiment" relationship and get the kick of it. But are they really in love? one often reads of soem beauty queen saying proudly that she is waiting for Mr Right to turn up. Mr Right just does not exist. everyone has his or her good qualities and weaknesses. To expect too much from human nature is sheer folly. To recognize one's weak points and other's weak points, is the beginning of maturity.
but what if one began to feel that his or her partner do not really get along with them? should they give up totally or compromise? can time change their perception?this is for you to tell me not i to find out.


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